My sister always had a super slim body (and she still does after two kids!). Actually, she has this thing called "gastroptosis" and has an opposite problem - she can't gain weight no matter how much or what she eats. I was very envious as a kid, but for her, that was a problem.
Having such a sister, it was always a nightmare to see the relatives! They all go, "Oh, your sister is so tiny and cute! And Tomoko, you are... umm... you look so... healthy!" Ugh. I started thinking all these supposedly positive words, such as "healthy," "pleasantly plump(!!)" = bad, bad, B-A-D!!!
It was always a HUGE problem for me. I was very much introverted and didn't want to be seen by people. When I had difficulties in life, especially when someone didn't like me (like boys!!), I thought it was because I was fat. Later, I realized that the problem actually lay within myself, not in my body. Plus, if someone doesn't like me because of the way I look, I shouldn't be associated with such people anyway. People should like me because of who I am, not because of the way I look!
But until I realized it, I confess - I have tried crazy diets several times in my life. It was horrible. By not eating properly, I got cranky, lacked energy and was not being healthy, and no one likes that - including myself! I mean, would you?
So I changed my focus to be healthy. :)
But I know many girls go through similar things and I TOTALLY understand what it's like, because I've been there myself. It is sort of promoted that way in this society, too.
That's why I created my online store, Kenkobi Factory (www.KenkobiFactory.com) with the purpose of helping people stay healthy and achieve their own natural beauty.
I believe that you'll look better, and more importantly, feel a lot better when you are healthy, even if you are a bit over-weight. Your focus should be being healthy and staying healthy. And if your friends don't agree with that, then you are probably with the wrong kind of friends. Be with people who love you for who you are and the way you are, and want you to be healthy, feel great and sparkly, because there are many like that out there - and here is one. :)
To your health and natural beauty! :)
Very true :)
ReplyDeleteGuys also have this pressure, but not as bad as the push by society on gals. I personally have been down this road, and life becomes a lot more simple when you decide you are in control of how you look and how you feel an no one else is responsible for that.
Besides, being healthy and getting fit is so much more positive than "loosing weight". Weight loss is really never the goal, it's just a measurable side effect. What people really want is to feel better, more alive, be more attractive, be able to do things without being out of breath.
Changing the focus to this gives you so much more energy and commitment to actually achieving your goals.
Yes, exactly! :)
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